The reaction I had to the news the other day makes me realise how close to the edge I am at the moment. I know I am very tearful but I was in a blind panic……I literally couldn’t see through the fog. My brain felt as though it had seized up and my emotions were uncontrollable. I think the only thoughts getting me through are the hope that justice will prevail and a judge looking at all the evidence will be fair and award what is rightfully mine and the children’s. After hearing what I did though I felt scared. Rightly so, I know we won’t starve, thankfully we live in a country that doesn’t allow that,but what I’m fighting for is a quality of life that He and I worked together to give our children and just because he has suddenly taken control of the purse strings, rightly or wrongly, doesn’t mean that he can take this away from us because of his fraudulent behaviour. Or can he? It seems that it’s not that simple in the eyes of the law. I’ve no idea why….I have five children to support with no income source for the forseeable future without trying my hardest to fight for what is ours. It’s not that I want him to support us…..I hate that I’m in this position. I’m trying to get back what he has taken from the children and I. I just never imagined it would be so hard.
What worries me at the moment is ……what if I lose. I’m not sure if I’m strong enough to take that. It never occurred to me before because I thought that it was clear what has been done and that honesty is the best policy. I’m not so confident anymore…..this man has even had a baby just to ensure he secures the only door that was open to me….that poor poor child being used like that. He will go to any lengths to take what he can….greedy greedy man.
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bless your heart. stay strong and fight the good fight. you and your children deserve better then what he has done for you.
your writing is so powerful. you have such a wonderful re pore here, you should write a book and make a killing off the proceeds. you have a lot of great stuff to work with here and I know a million women would purchase the book just because we can totally relate. you should seriously consider it. that would take care of your financial woes. and I would still fight him from taking from the children.
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Thanks so much, I really feel chuffed with your comment. XX
What to say? I’m so sorry it is so hard. Surely though the law is on the side of the children (at least!) and will not let them go without. Each day you get through, each day you survive this god almighty struggle, is another win. You’re doing so well. Try to not look for the finish line, just remind yourself that it’s enough to get through today. Then tommorrow, do that again. Keep strong hun. I do believe in justice. It will come. xx
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Thanks….I believe too….I think, haha. I hope . XX
Dearest Chic, It is only natural that you feel petrified, but I’m glad to hear that although things are still terribly worrying that you are making more sense of it all and are a little less panicked. As you say, I am no legal expert, but a judge will always take into account that there are 5 children to consider, a judge is fair, a judge will listen, a judge will have seen this before. Do you have a court date yet, and I presume you will not go alone you will take a strong and supportive ally with you. xxxx
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Fingers crossed we’ll be in court very soon. That’s what I’m hoping because I want someone to look at everything. XX
I know you are scared and worried – anyone would be. Stand strong. Do what you need to do. I agree with Chania again. If the news you received was from your lawyer, you need to realize that they have to tell you what the worst could be – just in case. But I think on the whole judges are reasonable, fair and have seen it all and I have to believe that you will be fine. Much love. xx
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Thank you Gigi….lets hope so. x
You will not lose. You must think a certain way and start making that your reality. Any judge will look at the fact taht you have 5 children and his new woman has 1. The judge will take into acount that you have no other means of support. Your settlement will be determined by a percentage of his income per child, and a degree of spousal support will also be awarded. Failure to pay support can result in the courts enforcing this. NO judge is going to let him get away with his BS. They have seen it many many times. They favour the children of the first marriage and will enforce your rightful payment. My friend has an ex that played games and manipulated and tried hot to pay her. The judge finally had enough of his antics, got pissed off at him and actually reprimanded him. She got her settlement and it is enforced. Hang in there. You do have the strength because you are a mum, and we always manage to find a little more hidden away somewhere. (miracle of motherhood).
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Thank you Chania….it’s all very complicated because of companies etc…moving things about/abroad maybe. Apparently I can only be awarded what shows on the day…..and he’s made it so that he is in huge debt. Thanks for your support. xx